A little secret- I have an indie bellybutton.
It sorta does it’s own things, has it’s own vibe. One day it’s poking out, the next day’s it’s hiding. It’s a bit of a free bird, an artsy belly button if you will.
Things settle and shift and drop differently after one child, then two. My bellybutton is evidence of what used to behave and now has a mind of it’s own. You get the point.