Relationships. They aren’t always easy. At some point, specifically with deep, important ones, conflict will occur. And when it does, we have a choice to “peace out” or “push through.” When my dad died, a lot of ugly bubbled to the surface. Anger. Frustration. Resentment. Loneliness. I was confused at why certain people were not showing up in ways I …
Since we married 9 ½ years ago, Bryan has always worked in ministry as a youth pastor. We started with rambunctious middle school students, tried high school ministry for a stint, and returned to our original love for rowdy junior high kids. Yes, both of us used to be crazy, now it’s mostly just Bryan.
And for the last eight summers, we’ve brought students to Hume Lake for a week of summer camp. Early in our marriage, Bryan would counsel a guy’s cabin, while I, a group of giggly girls. Us ladies would stay up late talking and every morning I’d threaten if they pulled out their makeup bag with hopes of impressing the male lifeguards. Girls, puh-leese! I’m sorry to break the news, but they are not looking at you or your envisioned marriage. Let’s not glob on the makeup this week. Let them freckles breathe. That was then…
One of my favorite things about being a parent is learning from these incredible little people, aka my boys! Whether it’s bravery or being strong and courageous, I’m reminded daily that if we, as parents aren’t modeling it, there’s no way our kids will learn it!
Last year I wrote this Forgiveness article for HomeFront Magazine. I love this magazine for a thousand reasons, but mostly it’s full of great reminders of coming alongside the Holy Spirit in this parenting adventure instead of trying to do it on my own. We all know how that ends up! Epic mom fails and guilt and comparison… it’s just ugly!
I’m grateful it’s never too early or too late to ask for forgiveness and to extend forgiveness. We pretty much practice it daily around our house!
You can read the Modeling Forgiveness article here on page 11: