Learning how to communicate Vulnerability

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Everything I’m reading and watching and coming to understand about vulnerability points back to the beautiful truth that until I’m honest about my feelings and fears for the sake of deeper relationships, only then will abundant living be an option. Wholehearted living, as Brene Brown says. Vulnerability requires putting myself out there, sharing my needs, risking the fact that I have no …

Ladies, let’s stop Apologizing

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The first time I noticed my quickness to utter #sorrynotsorry was brought to my attention from our counselor. Your work  will be to stop apologizing for everything, she observed. Wow. I brushed it aside until I found these words coming out unintentionally, often using humor to cover up my underlying discomfort. I’m sorry for crying. Sorry about that. I’m sorry for not understanding. (Noticing someone …

3 Truths and a Lie

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“How was school today, guys?” I’m nodding like an eager puppy with a ball. Only to meet one blank, wait, yep, one blank son stare. The other son volunteers every detail of each classmate at decimal 10. I’ll let you guess which boy. “So school?” I ask. Parent friends, you know how this drill goes: The eye roll. The standard response. We send …

I heart verbal Communication

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Gosh, I’m the biggest fan of verbal communication. Yes, social media avenues where comments are left and sentiments gushed are awesome. I adore a good handwritten note or thoughtful text, but there’s nothing quite like seeing body language or hearing one’s tone when verbally communicating. Words, you had me at hello. What I most appreciate about the handing back and …

Please Hold and Hug

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Attitudes over here at the Pogue Cottage have been at an all-time high. Our boys too. (W;ink) It seems everything we ask is too demanding or said in a different tongue because we are met with a wall of non-responsive, heavy-sighing, blank staring, eye-rolling children. “I don’t want to.” “No.” “But… ” eyes look around to blame the nearest item for …

Let’s Step in Front

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Much of life can feel like we’re chasing after it, reacting, running with outstretched arms in hopes of pulling it back to real time. Wait. Come baaaaaaack. Kinda like watching a car accident in slow motion, it’s as though we know it’s coming, but aren’t sure how to respond to when it does happen. And how? Like, what do we say when life takes off like …

My Shame Resilience Story

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I tapped the red circle to end the call, slid the back door open, doubled over and bawled. Because after hard phone calls it makes sense to ugly cry into the grass. Chalk it up to a therapeutic watering I offered our droughty, California yard. My heart was racing from stingy words. I gave myself permission to cry and then asked myself, Where …

Relationships, Forgiveness & Finding Peace

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Relationships. They aren’t always easy. At some point, specifically with deep, important ones, conflict will occur. And when it does, we have a choice to “peace out” or “push through.” When my dad died, a lot of ugly bubbled to the surface. Anger. Frustration. Resentment. Loneliness. I was confused at why certain people were not showing up in ways I …