The Road to Authenticity

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Recently I had an out-of-body experience where I spoke a need and felt dismissed and spoke up (again) only to meet a brisk comment, and there.it.was. That tension of saying my thoughts even if it wasn’t understood and wanting not to appear difficult or ungrateful. The latter won. And I hated it. I slunk out feeling ashamed and frustrated for allowing nice …

Learning how to communicate Vulnerability

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Everything I’m reading and watching and coming to understand about vulnerability points back to the beautiful truth that until I’m honest about my feelings and fears for the sake of deeper relationships, only then will abundant living be an option. Wholehearted living, as Brene Brown says. Vulnerability requires putting myself out there, sharing my needs, risking the fact that I have no …

From a fellow imperfect Mama

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Walking out of the church together, I breathed in her daughter’s pink and purple adorned cuteness as she pushed the stroller toward her car. “How old is she?” I asked. “She’s 9 months,” the mom smiled. “I have an 18 year old and 13 year old son too.” Leaning over, she pulled her daughter’s blanket down to reveal the most delicious rosy …

My Shame Resilience Story

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I tapped the red circle to end the call, slid the back door open, doubled over and bawled. Because after hard phone calls it makes sense to ugly cry into the grass. Chalk it up to a therapeutic watering I offered our droughty, California yard. My heart was racing from stingy words. I gave myself permission to cry and then asked myself, Where …

Real life, social media, and why I’m embracing #realisthenewperfect

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More than ever, I embrace #realisthenewperfect because what we see online, in print, or on a blog is often not the “perfect” picture we assume it is. Perfection. We strive for it even though we’ll never come close. Let us not mistake beautiful photos, inspiring words, and innovative projects for perfection- they are created by people, and you and I both know us peeps ain’t perfect. There are authors, designers, and faithful speakers I’m drawn to because they offer another facet of God’s personality. It’s my darn assumptions that distorts their outcome. Tension pulls when my marriage, my kids, and my home doesn’t feel Pinterest-worthy or up-to-par. Herein lies the social media balance; offering “real” without airing dirty laundry, capturing beauty in the cracks and corners of hard days, while celebrating light shed on giftings and passions played out.

“I Don’t Believe in God”

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Conversations with our sons have been getting pretty interesting over here, too good not to share. If you’re in need of a laugh, head-tilt thought, or trip down childhood question memory lane, I’m starting a blog series surrounding TANNER Talks and TY Talks every week or so. Crawling into the minds of 3 and 5 year old boys is scary enough, but I invite you to journey with me, to pull up a chair and join our family, maybe offer some perspective, some Kleenex, some shared giggles, as I fumble to make sense of their honest questions.

Let’s just jump right in, shall we?