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Great job! You are the best! Awesome! Fabulous!  Seriously… you are amazing!


We all want them ~ approval, praise, acknowledgement.

But do we need them? Do we depend on them for our well-being, for our identity? As in, if we don’t get them, our day is suddenly dim? Or, if we hear nothing, or receive little feedback, or get few “likes” we believe we’re less than?

The topic of accolades has surfaced ’round these parts much in the past weeks.

At the beginning of September, our church held Seek Week, which is a week focused on fasting from social media and often food- I even heard a horrible rumor that some fasted from dessert {I call that a sin}- in order to pause and turn our attention to our Creator; to seek Him with our time and body and heart. Awesome, right? Yes! But I also found it ironic the conversations that accompanied Seek Week. Since so many were fasting from social media, I heard this:

I go to grab my phone to take a picture and then remember, no one will see it, so I don’t.

I have a really good blog post brewing, but I’ll save it for later when people will read it.

What’s the point of posting something if no one is going to “like” it?

Even if we didn’t give words to it, we probably thought it.

Crazy, huh?

Or maybe not…

Let’s lean in closer and talk in safe voices. Let’s be super candid and ruh-eel!

If no one gives us accolades for our efforts, do we still do it?


If no one comments on your FB post or blog rant, if no one gushes over your Instagram picture, or your ever-changing social endeavors, do you still share them?

Isn’t it true that at our root self, each of us  just wants to be liked, invited, thought of, appreciated, and celebrated simply for who we are?

Do you ever find these inner voices chattering loudly:

If I were more witty,

more fun,

had a more impressive resume,

were cooler,

a better parent,

more fashionable…

the lies go on for miles. They started at age five when someone didn’t play with us at school and have continued into adulthood.

Well, let me tell you… it’s a BIG.FAT.LIE! Don’t let how people react or don’t react steal your joy! Do it because you love it, and it’s how you glorify God.

I felt myself falling into the fear trap, the downhill desire for accolade approval this past weekend. I’d invited my mom to join me for a women’s conference in the central coast where I was sharing an afternoon workshop. A girl trip to worship, hear God’s word, get refreshed…and let’s not forget food and shopping!

The conference kicked off with a night of worship, and as we sang, I got those nervous, gut-eating worries.

What if no one comes to my workshop? Do I have any funny stories to share? Do I have an inspiring message? Does someone have an even more inspiring story? What if another speaker is way cooler, and more captivating, and more dynamic. I’m just….

Do you see what just happened? Immediately I was consumed with what others would think, how they might react, instead of being confident with the words God had given me- regardless of how they might be received.

You ever feel like that? Almost scared to branch out, or risk yourself for fear it won’t be warmly welcomed, or accepted, or met with cheers?

Is that why we are to do it?

1 Thessalonians 2:4 says, “But just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts.

Moments later, the keynote said this: “Don’t compare yourself to the person to your left, or to your right. KEEP YOUR EYES ON JESUS.”

I know, we’ve heard it before. But I forget this truth quite often.

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.~ Galations 1:10


Proverbs 29:25 ~ “The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe.”

Whoosh…. off lifts the pressure when you stop worrying about the result, and find joy in the process.

Sigh…. your soul lightens when you cement your eyes and thoughts and spirit on what He thinks first and only.

Smile… your attitude changes and demeanor celebrates that God has you on your own unique journey.

So whether you teach, sing, or create, whether you parent, or blog, or cook, do it because you absolutely love it! And allow that to be enough.

Do it because you can’t not do it. Do it not for the pull of applause, but from the depths of passion.

Don’t listen to the crazy voices, the ones inching towards accolade-isms, the fear of what gains enough “likes”, or comments, or attention.

Do what you do because after you do, you feel braver, and purposeful, and more you… do it because in the process it offers you life, and in return, you inspire authentic passion.


“Any honours that come our way are only stolen from him to whom alone they really belong, the Lord who sent us.”

– Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The Cost of Discipleship





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